NECESSARY PAIN PRIOR TO REAL HELP
by Joanna Poppink, M.F.C.C
You are so anxious that overeating doesn't always work. You are anxious
before, during and after compulsive overeating. You can't eat enough to
stop this anxiety. You are losing your temper more often and more
explosively. You feel you may be a menace driving. You attack yourself in
your mind and call yourself terrible names. You want to sink into oblivion,
and you can't find a way.
So you call agencies. You answer ads. You surf the net. You e-mail
clinicians. You talk to people who attend Overeaters Anonymous Meetings.
You are desperate enough to push yourself more deeply into what may be the
right healing environment for you.
At this time it may seem that none of your coping mechanisms are working.
Something else is required. We all can and do wear out our
defense systems. In fact, that's usually when people seek therapy -- when
their defense systems just plain break down. Then when therapy starts, the
real issues can begin to come forth.
At that time, (now, for you) the person thinks they are in a crisis, and
they usually are. But please remember, crisis means danger and opportunity
together and simultaneously.
The compulsive eating, the Prozac, and whatever else you have been doing/using
can only go so far. Depression is also part of the defense system -- trying to shut
you down. When you start to feel more it means that even the depression is
weakening, and you need to do something to help yourself.
You have a lot to live for and to live well for. I and others in the healing
community will and do applaud your reaching out to find a way to be more
healthy and present for your life. You are opening to the possibility of
real self discovery and growth. I wish you well.
You are doing a great thing for yourself and those you love. Moving toward
personal health and honest self awareness can only be a benefit to you and
the people you care about. Your unbearable pain is your first guide to true
licensed by the State of California in 1980, is a Marriage, Family, Child
Counselor (License #15563). She has a private practice in Los Angeles
where she works with adult individuals and couples. She specializes in
working with people with eating disorders and with people who are trying
to understand and help a loved on who has an eating disorder.
10573 West Pico Blvd. Suite 20
Los Angeles, CA 90064
(310) 474-4165 phone
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