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by Diana Diaz

The night seems endless but morning has finally come. You don't welcome the day because you know the misery it holds. You have another appointment with a new doctor. That means you'll have to tell your story all over again and see the doubt in the doctor's eyes. You will tell the doctor that the chronic pain you feel is unbearable and that you're tired of the constant pain.

You're tired of the waiting, the disbelief, the loneliness, the numerous medications and the endless appointments. Maybe you've already given up seeing doctors and have finally resolved yourself to the fact that nothing can be done. Maybe you've been told that you're fine and the pain is only psychological. Now you feel stupid as well.

Despair fills the hours of your day and that nagging pain that just will not go away. There are fleeting moments when you're pain free but that is only a horrible tease of what could be or might have been if somebody only believed enough to find an answer.

Well, I'm here to tell you that there is no need for you to suffer. There is no need to feel uncomfortable or defeated. First, you need to believe in yourself. Medicine is not an absolute and there are many things that doctors do not know. Doctors are also human with human limitations and faults like ordinary people. Too many times, doctors are placed on a pedestal and their word is etched into rock, but I am here to tell you that this false belief needs to be shattered.

No one is infallible and therefore no doctor is right all the time. If you are in pain, it is the body's way of telling you that something is wrong. I believe that there is no need for people to suffer needlessly. Do not be afraid to go for a second, third, even fourth opinion. Find a doctor that believes in you and is willing to go the extra mile to find out what is causing your pain or find remedies to ease it.

There is such a thing as psychological pain, but most people know the difference, especially a sufferer of chronic pain. You need to be up front with the doctor that you plan to see and make him aware that you want results that you will not accept psychological pain as an excuse. Do not except pain medication as an answer either. Addiction to pain medication is at an all time high. Don't let yourself fall into that trap. It can have devastating effects and it will not fix your chronic pain, only disguise it for a time.

Keep a record of all your tests because what one doctor missed, another will see. Do research on the tests you are taking, the medication you are receiving and the conditions the doctors say you have or might have. That way no one can pull the wool over your eyes, so to speak. Knowing what's happening with your body makes you feel a little more in control. You won't feel so helpless. Give suggestions to the doctors. Ask questions, it's your right.

Finally, persevere. I know it gets tiring going from appointment to appointment, taking test after test. There will be an end, a light shining through. Don't be ashamed of the depression you are going through. Don't let anyone reduce your feelings, desires or pain. They might not know what you're going through but that gives them no excuse to ignore your needs. Don't be afraid to cry. It's the body's way of cleansing your soul.

Seek a consoling ear. Everyone needs someone else to talk to. If you don't have a family member or friend, find a counselor or a support group. You do not need to face this alone as so many sufferers do. You feel like no one believes you. Maybe your family and friends mock your so-called pain. Maybe they tease you for your frequent doctor visits and tests. Put a stop to it immediately. Be firm. When they see your determination and strength, they will support you.


Diana Diaz is a 28 year old female from a diverse background. Her major in college was wildlife biology. She also has finished Paramedic training. Diana is a freelance writer for various magazines and a writer for Eye On the Web, writing on medical issues. She has her own Writer's Critique Group and is working on getting her first set of published books. She can be reached at: (505)867-5590.


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