SHOULD I MAKE NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTIONS?
by Connie Saindon, MA, MFT, CTS
Happy New Year to all! Good-bye for now to the over-eating, over-spending, over-partying and just plain all the over-doing that we traditionally do during the last few weeks of every year. I love the holidays and giving and visiting but I am glad when they are over. I see January as our selfish month and a mirror reflection to the last 6 weeks of the year. We usually spend very little and try to catch the sales to make our next holiday season more economical. Every year I buy outdoor lights, one of these days I'm going to have enough to light up my entire neighborhood. Most of us buy more low fat foods and since many of us still want to eat out, restaurants are increasing their "healthy" selections. January is typically a time to do less visiting, partying, drinking, eating and the relatives have gone home.
This selfish (in the good sense of the word) time is important for getting back on track from this overindulgent period and reviewing our last year. It is a time to take pride in our victories, review our joys along with mourning our regrets and losses in 1996. For some, it may be enough that you got through the year and past the holidays.
Here is the process that I go through as I decide whether or not to make New Year's Resolutions. Whether you decide to commit to specific goals, a review of where you've been and where you want to go may be of value. Perhaps these thoughts will aide your journey into 1997.
Review your last year, divide it into quarters if you like.
Decide what happened that you'd like to continue to have in your life and what would you like to put more distance in.
After reviewing these questions, my goals for 1997 are as follows:
To maintain these goals use the following suggestions:
Good luck and keep me posted with how you are doing and yes, you can check up on me periodically too.
Connie Saindon, M.A., MFT, has been a Licensed Marital and Family Therapist since 1979. In addition to providing services for Individuals, couples and families, Ms. Saindon is among the few specialists in the field of violent death bereavement. Founder the Survivors of Violent Death Program and volunteer faculty at the University of California Medical School Department of Psychiatry, she is author of The Journey, Violent Death Bereavement: Adult Survivors Workbook and contributing author of Violent Death: Resilience and Intervention beyond the Crisis. To reach her, please see this page.
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