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How to Talkto Kids about
Painful Topics
with Dr. Linda Abbott Trapp
eBook and Audio Download (MP3)
- Do you know how to talk about the war? the economy? loss? other types of unwanted change?
- Do you know when and how to talk about family values? sexuality?
Learn what to say, and
when to say it!
when to say it!
New Years Resolution - 10 Keys for Success
The Passive-Aggressive Personality
If you're like most people, the majority of your New Year's resolutions become New Year's delusions by the end of February. Less than 30% of New Years resolutions ever achieve success, but year after year, we stick with tradition of making at least one resolution.
On New Years Eve, many of us make (or consider making) a resolution to achieve a personal goal. This is the opportunity for a clean start, you're once a year opening to take on a new challenge and achieve something worth while. Want to make a difference this year? Here are 10 keys to achieving results with your resolution for the New Year.
1. Put Some Thought into Your Resolution
A significant number of people make their resolutions at the last minute, sometimes a minute before midnight, in response to someone asking "what's your New Year's resolution?" An important fact about resolutions is resolutions do not need to be declared at the stroke of midnight, or on New Year's day for that matter.
Take your time; make a realistic resolution, one that you have considered and you believe can be accomplished. No need to make it life changing, profound or of great significance to others. Make a resolution that has meaning and (more...)
On New Years Eve, many of us make (or consider making) a resolution to achieve a personal goal. This is the opportunity for a clean start, you're once a year opening to take on a new challenge and achieve something worth while. Want to make a difference this year? Here are 10 keys to achieving results with your resolution for the New Year.
1. Put Some Thought into Your Resolution
A significant number of people make their resolutions at the last minute, sometimes a minute before midnight, in response to someone asking "what's your New Year's resolution?" An important fact about resolutions is resolutions do not need to be declared at the stroke of midnight, or on New Year's day for that matter.
Take your time; make a realistic resolution, one that you have considered and you believe can be accomplished. No need to make it life changing, profound or of great significance to others. Make a resolution that has meaning and (more...)
Social Phobia
Previously underdiagnosed and misunderstood, social phobia is now known to afflict one out of every seven Americans at some time in their lives. Going far beyond simple bashfulness, social phobia is defined as the marked and persistent fear of social or performance situations in which embarrassment might occur.
In fact, any exposure to the dreaded situation almost invariably leads to immediate and intense anxiety. In contrast, the person feels fine when alone. Although we all feel self-conscious at times, people with social phobia will go to great lengths to avoid speaking, eating, drinking, or writing when others are around.
They are afraid that others will notice their frazzled appearance¿their trembling and clammy hands, shaking voices, sweating foreheads¿and that they will be thought of as weak, foolish, or ridiculous. In most cases, the fear of scrutiny spans more than one social situation.
Remarkably enough, even some of our best-known celebrities have been victims of social phobia. Barbra Steisand's fear of forgetting song lyrics led to a self-imposed absence from the concert stage for 20 years. Baseball legend Mickey Mantle's fear of making personal appearances led him to escalate his use of alcohol, which culminated in full-blown alcoholism and fatal (more....)
Previously underdiagnosed and misunderstood, social phobia is now known to afflict one out of every seven Americans at some time in their lives. Going far beyond simple bashfulness, social phobia is defined as the marked and persistent fear of social or performance situations in which embarrassment might occur.
In fact, any exposure to the dreaded situation almost invariably leads to immediate and intense anxiety. In contrast, the person feels fine when alone. Although we all feel self-conscious at times, people with social phobia will go to great lengths to avoid speaking, eating, drinking, or writing when others are around.
They are afraid that others will notice their frazzled appearance¿their trembling and clammy hands, shaking voices, sweating foreheads¿and that they will be thought of as weak, foolish, or ridiculous. In most cases, the fear of scrutiny spans more than one social situation.
Remarkably enough, even some of our best-known celebrities have been victims of social phobia. Barbra Steisand's fear of forgetting song lyrics led to a self-imposed absence from the concert stage for 20 years. Baseball legend Mickey Mantle's fear of making personal appearances led him to escalate his use of alcohol, which culminated in full-blown alcoholism and fatal (more....)
The Passive-Aggressive Personality
He's kind, caring, an all-around nice guy - most of the time. Other times, you wonder about him. Doesn't he hear you? Doesn't he care? Is he stubborn, stupid or what?
Like the time you were preparing dinner and asked him if he'd buy a quart of skim milk and a package of American cheese on his way home. He said, "Sure, no problem," but instead brought home whole milk and Swiss cheese. You were left thinking - Hello, is anybody home? I could have sent my 10 year-old to the store with better results!
When you confront him about buying the wrong items, he becomes irritated with you. He says he forgot, doesn't see what the big deal is and accuses you of never being satisfied with anything he does. You alternate between feeling guilty, wondering if indeed you are too finicky or demanding, and feeling frustrated that he can't execute a simple task.
If this scenario seems familiar, it's time to learn more about passive-aggressive personalities.
Bill appears to be a "nice" guy, both in his personal and professional relationships. If asked to do something, he typically responds, "No problem," "I'll get to it," or "I'll get back to you on this." But his follow-through on these matters leaves much to be desired. Hiding his defiance under a guise of compliance, he promises anything, but then does whatever he wants. Bill's passive-aggressive pattern began in childhood. Not wanting to argue with his parents but wanting to get them off his back, he became well skilled in passive-aggressive strategies, such (more....)
Like the time you were preparing dinner and asked him if he'd buy a quart of skim milk and a package of American cheese on his way home. He said, "Sure, no problem," but instead brought home whole milk and Swiss cheese. You were left thinking - Hello, is anybody home? I could have sent my 10 year-old to the store with better results!
When you confront him about buying the wrong items, he becomes irritated with you. He says he forgot, doesn't see what the big deal is and accuses you of never being satisfied with anything he does. You alternate between feeling guilty, wondering if indeed you are too finicky or demanding, and feeling frustrated that he can't execute a simple task.
If this scenario seems familiar, it's time to learn more about passive-aggressive personalities.
Bill appears to be a "nice" guy, both in his personal and professional relationships. If asked to do something, he typically responds, "No problem," "I'll get to it," or "I'll get back to you on this." But his follow-through on these matters leaves much to be desired. Hiding his defiance under a guise of compliance, he promises anything, but then does whatever he wants. Bill's passive-aggressive pattern began in childhood. Not wanting to argue with his parents but wanting to get them off his back, he became well skilled in passive-aggressive strategies, such (more....)
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