QUESTIONS & ANSWERS:
Dreams Department

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Question

I had a dream about a High School classmate where he asked me to go on a ride with him. I can't recall where we were going. This dream struck me as odd since I haven't seen Jake or thought about him in over 20 years. We weren't even friends, he was just another student in my class.

Answer

It does feel odd to be intruded upon after so many years by people we have all but forgotten. While the figure of Jake in your dream will have a personal meaning for you that I can only guess at, the general experience in dreams of meeting people we haven't thought of in years is quite common.

Dream workers in general make use of these types of dreams by looking at them as indicating a return to our consciousness of a part of *our own* personality that has been submerged for many years. The dream is taken as a signal that the projections we have placed on that person now represent the energies we can manifest in our lives.

Thus if Jake were a bully, then that part of us that is a bully may be trying to express itself, or as your dream says, take us for a ride. If Jake, in this example, was a bully, we could look to see if maybe we had been unaware of that part of ourself. If this were my dream I might look to see how I'm like Jake and either don't want to be, or need to be more like him. Where in my life might it be useful to be more aggressive, where in my life do I tease those weaker than me and enjoy it? Because Jake came from a time of adolescence, there will also be those teenage characteristics to play with and explore as well.

Summary:

1. Name 5 or more characteristics that describe Jake.

2. Ask yourself, "Where in my life am I like "aggressive-Jake?" or "timid-Jake?" if that is one of his characteristics.

3. Ask yourself, "Where might it be to my advantage to be more like this?" and "...less like this?"

Thus when we take the arrival of old acquaintances as an opportunity to integrate and accept that part of ourselves, we begin to cooperate with the dream as a natural process of seeking wholeness and health.

2/19/98

Richard Wilkerson is general editor for The Internet Dream E-zine, Electric Dreams, and director of DreamGate, the Internet Communications and Dream Education Center. He writes the Cyberphile column for the Association for the Study of Dreams Newsletter.

 

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