I had a dream that my baby wandered off while I was washing the clothes, I
had completely forgotten about her! I ran outside looking everywhere but
couldn't find her. My grandmother said (in waking life) this means I'm going
to have to watch my baby more closely, or she will get away. Now I'm going
crazy all the time looking and watching over her.
Being responsible for those under our care is always a hard task, and family
bugging us about it makes even more stressful. Although the deeper meanings
of your dream can only be known and discovered by you, there are some common
themes I can comment on.
This dream often happens to people who are the most responsible in life, and
have, in a sense *earned* the right to see a little father than most. It is
interesting that in mythology many of the heros are first abandoned by the
parents, on hillsides, in rivers, in caves and fields. What this indicates
to some is that our dream children are really metaphors of our higher self.
In other words, from the point of view of the dreaming mind, what is
emerging is something new and world shaking. What we are doing in losing our
charges is neglecting it or allowing it to develop on its own. The neglect
then is self-neglect. How many projects, for example, have I left abandoned
on the hillside? How to give ourselves time for self growth in the modern
world is a real challenge.
If this were my dream, I would be interested in why this happens when I'm
washing the clothes. Generally I would see clothes washing as a metaphor for
dealing with difficult issues, i.e. dirty laundry. In my dream it is exactly
at this place that the baby's absence is revealed. In other words, its not
that I was supposed to be watching the baby (either the real baby or
metaphorical baby self) instead of doing the laundry, but that when I do the
laundry, when I deal with my stuff, then the divine child is revealed to me
as missing. We can't look for that which we are not aware of being absent.
Richard Wilkerson is general editor for The
Internet Dream E-zine, Electric Dreams, and director of DreamGate, the Internet
Communications and Dream Education Center. He writes the Cyberphile column for
the Association for the Study of Dreams Newsletter.