Many of my friends have relationships that work. I "fall in love" and then
"fall out of love." Then I get depressed and feel defeated. I constantly
feel like I am not worthy of a relationship.
Well, let's look at what you call "falling in love." I like to call it
"falling in infatuation." Love is a state of being that grows over time. It
appears that you get involved in a situation that is very stimulating and
once the excitement ends, so does the infatuation or the relationship. It
would be important to ask,"What do I want from a relationship?" Also,
important to ask, "What am I willing to give and do to reach my goals?"
Perhaps, you attract people who want excitement rather than the development
of a lasting bond and creating love. I would suggest you read the article
in this ezine entitled
Finding Someone Right for You
by Edward Dreyfus, Ph.D.
Dr. Patricia Pitta is a clinical psychologist
practicing in Manhasset, New York, for more than 20 years. She is a Diplomat
in Family Psychology of the American Psychological Association and an Approved
Supervisor of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy. Dr. Pitta
is also the President of the Long Island Association of Marriage and Family
She has created a treatment modality that enables the partners to accept
responsibility for their parts in relationship problems leading to resolution
of issues without getting stuck in blame. She encourages self growth which
enhances couple growth and family development.