I am interested in a man who works in my office. He is not on the same team but we have a lot of
contact on a daily basis. I would like to ask him on a date. What should I do?
Proceed with caution! It is natural that romantic interests happen at work but when they don't work out (or even if
they do) things can get very messy. Some guidelines:
1. Check to see if your employer has a
policy regarding dating in the workplace. Some discourage or forbid
dating especially if direct supervision is involved. Make sure you are
not risking your job.
2. Any suggestive remark can be seen as
sexual harassment. If you wish to ask someone on a date, I suggest asking
him outside of work and be clear. State. "I am interested in seeing
you socially and that I would understand if you are not interested".
Then, stick to your word. Don't pursue him, it will make him uncomfortable.
3. Don't treat him any differently at work.
If you feel this will be impossible, try to find social venues to meet
Annemarie Infantino Murphy, Ph.D.