I think I am going through menopause and I have been having lots of
trouble with my emotions. I seem to cry at the drop of the hat. My periods
are sometimes regular and sometimes not. Everyone says I have to get over
it and it is all in my mind. I'm worried I may be losing it.
It is quite common for women to experience tiredness, changes in moods
and some depression while they are entering the menopausal stage of life.
The early stage is called pre-menopause and usually lasts from three to
four years. Your feelings may be caused by changes in your hormone levels
and are real feelings, not "just in your head". There are many good books
out on menopause these days. You might want to go to the library or to
your local bookstore and get a book that appeals to you. If learning more
about menopause doesn't help, you might consult with a psychotherapist
about your feelings and check with your physician about hormone replacement
options, or to rule out another physical reason for your symptoms. Your
book (s), your therapist and your physician should have some helpful hints
on how to make you feel better!
Deborah G. Alicen, Ph.D., is a private practice
psychologist who lives in Plainfield, Vermont--a transplanted Southerner who
still can't say "cows" the way real Vermonters do. She has spent the
last twelve years working mostly with children, adolescents, and adults recovering
from sexual abuse and domestic violence.